episode #111 creatures of manners

snail in an empty plant pot

Are manners old fashioned? 

In general, in a society, manners are described as either good manners or as bad manners to indicate to a person whether or not his or her behaviour is acceptable to the cultural group. 

Rules of etiquette are usually unwritten and passed down from generation to generation. Social manners are in three categories: manners of hygiene (usually are tough by parents to the child by way of parental discipline and positive behavioural enforcement), manners of courtesy (a child learns self-control and good-faith behaviour in older age by observing and socially interacting), and manners of cultural norm (Cultural norm manners are learnt through the enculturation with and the routinisation of ‘the familiar’, and through social exposure to the ‘cultural otherness’ of people identified as foreign to the group).

Some of the key things to remember are basic manners, such as always saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. This applies to everything from asking for an item in a shop to interacting with staff in local bars and restaurants. Eye contact when talking with people is also considered an important part of our society, and a basic cornerstone of polite conduct.

Traditionally, one of the best examples of the good manners is the importance placed on punctuality. 

Good table manners are essential. As the guest it is polite to wait until everyone at the table has been served and your host starts eating or indicates that you should do so. Once the meal has begun it is impolite to reach over someone else’s plate for an item such as seasoning or a food platter; it is more considerate to ask for the item to be passed to you. Leaning your elbows on the table whilst you are eating is also considered rude.

Spoken word

Bootsy Collins: Everything Is Everything

Music

Grove Armada: But I Feel Good

Amy Winehouse: You Know Im No Good

Beastie Boys: Finger Lickin’ Good

BADBADNOTGOOD & Ghostface Killah: Sour Soul

Flying Lotus feat. Erykah Badu: See Thru to U 

Bag Riders: So Demanding

Helios: Emancipation

Boards of Canada: Nothing Is Real

Lana del Rey: Art Deco

Billie Holiday: Gee, Baby, Ain’t I Good to You

Oscar Peterson Trio: I Got It Bad and That Ain’t Good to You


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